Last summer was a total write off, we had stuff going on which meant we didn't leave the house for weeks and when we did we were filled with anxiety. This summer is going to be different but I have found myself feeling stressed because of the pressure I am putting on myself to make it the best summer ever! The pressure to do more, be more, plan everything, make memories and keep everyone happy!! I have thought about things and I have decided to let go of the stuff that drains my energy, clutters my mind and stops me from actually enjoying the season. I want a slower, gentler summer without the stress!
So here are the things that I'm letting go of this summer:
Overscheduling my days!
Every minute doesn’t need to be filled. I’m saying goodbye to calendars that look like military operations and leaving space for spontaneous moments. We will decide on the morning what we are doing that day, unless we have to be somewhere important.
Saying yes to everything!
It’s okay to say no. It's one of those things that I seemed to have learned with age. I don’t need to please everyone especially if it burns me out in the process or makes me do something that I don't really want to.
Chasing the perfect summer body!
This is my summer body. It’s already ready. No more punishing myself with guilt or diets. I am happy with my body, I am a little overweight but I am not unfit. Yeah, I couldn't run a marathon but I don't get puffed out walking up a hill and I can keep up with my family easily!
Feeling guilty for resting!
Rest is needed some days, especially if it's hot out! I’m not going to apologise for sitting in the garden or in front of the TV with a cool drink and no plans.
Expensive days out!
Summer fun doesn’t have to break the bank. Give me a picnic in the park, a day just window shopping or a walk out any day.
Putting pressure on myself to make memories!
Memories happen naturally. We don’t need a theme park, matching outfits or an expensive holiday to make them happen!
Being upset when my girls make plans without me!
They girls are growing up and that’s a good thing. I’ll cherish the times when they do choose to hang out with me and I'll let go of the FOMO.
Comparing our summer to everyone else’s!
Everyone’s social media looks amazing online but I’m not chasing someone else’s sunshine, I am going to be happy in my own!
Wearing things that aren’t comfortable just because they’re summery!
If I don’t feel good in it, I’m not wearing it. Bye bye, tight denim shorts and strappy tops that dig in! I have a whole blog post about shorts coming soon.
Apologising for doing things my way!
Whether it’s how I parent, how I relax, or what I prioritise I’m doing what works for me and I am not saying sorry! You do you and I will do me! If you have an opinion, take it elsewhere!
Feeling bad for not loving the heat!
Not everyone thrives in scorching weather. If I want to sit in front of a fan eating ice lollies that is what I will do!
Trying to make summer perfect
Perfection is exhausting and totally unrealistic. I’m embracing the messy, silly and unexpected parts because that’s what real life is all about!
What are you letting go of this summer?
